Episode 33

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22nd Feb 2026

33 | This is for You

When we say we want to be more like Jesus that also means 'forgiving' and sometimes, walking away. Let's go over a handful of scenarios in which I know we can ALL relate to our Lord.

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All right, everyone, welcome back

to another episode of I Can, he Can.

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My name is Saray.

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I'm your host, and today we are going to

be talking about something that I know.

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Every single one of you have dealt with.

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Not only is this something that

we deal with as Christians and

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followers of Christ, but we deal

with situations and people like

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this every single day of our lives,

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So if you are a follower and if you are

not a follower and you just happen to

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be listening to this, this is for you.

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You are not excluded.

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We live in a world where we face judgment.

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We face harsh comments, we face

negativity, toxicity, you name it.

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All of these situations that are super,

super uncomfortable are things that

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we have to deal with, unfortunately.

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And you know what?

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Praise the Lord that we are not

dealing with what Jesus dealt with.

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Praise the Lord that we are not

living in a country where we are being

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persecuted for our faith because

hat is happening right now in:

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unfortunately There are people being

killed just for what they believe in.

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So for the past few months, there

have been a lot of changes in my life.

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And of course, when you make certain

decisions, when you make certain changes,

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the people that are closest to you are

not going to take well into some of

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these situations, understandably so,

if you have children and your children

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start acting differently or do things

that are out of the norm, you are

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going to wanna ask questions, however.

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Always remember that there

are ways to ask things.

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There are ways to approach things.

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People react differently

to different situations.

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However, in.

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My experience and after reading several

parts of the Bible, the more that I

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read, the more that I understand and

see that sometimes no response or

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simply walking away is the best answer.

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in today's episode, I'm going to read

a few verses from Matthew and from Luke

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that pertain to situations that Jesus

dealt with and how he responded to them.

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I hope that these actually serve us all

as amazing examples because of course,

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what better example to follow than that

of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

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But we can actually.

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Retain these and keep these in the

bank of our hearts we know that we

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are going to come up with one of

these situations, whether it's five

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days from now or a year from now, we

have to deal with difficult people.

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Really at every point of our life,

not just family, sometimes friends,

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but for the most part at our jobs.

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and what better way to handle

those people and those situations

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than by mimicking our Lord.

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It's honestly what he would

want is what I'm thinking.

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So for today's episode, I broke this

down into three different categories

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and in these different categories.

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I'm going to read some of the scriptures.

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The first one that I noted was

leaving or staying away from

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unreceptive people and or places.

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So me, for example, I have a particular

family member who unfortunately I have

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just been clashing with so, so, so much.

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We went from having an amazing

relationship to, for some reason just

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having it being very strained and

as unfortunate as that is, and as

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much as I love this person for our

sanity just to keep stress at bay

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and not have to make things worse.

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Sometimes it's better to just.

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walk away.

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And if you see that a person is not seeing

eye to eye with you, you cannot want

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to spoonfeed every single opinion that

you have to that person because until

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a person is ready to listen and ready

to accept what you are telling them.

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They're not going to be receptive to it.

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They're not going to respond to it.

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People need to be ready to hear words,

and that goes the same for the gospel.

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Unfortunately, all we can do is

plant seeds and then walk away.

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So this is a perfect, perfect

scripture to start off with.

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I'm going to read from this

particular scenario, Jesus is

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sending out the 12 disciples to heal

people and to preach the gospel.

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They're going to be doing

many, many different things.

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However, Jesus was adamant and telling

them that if there is somewhere

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and they are not welcome to just

continue plant a seed and move on.

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we can find this specific instruction to

just shake the dust off and continue in

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Matthew chapter 10, verse 14, and it says.

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And whoever will not receive

you, nor hear your words when you

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depart from that house or city,

shake off the dust from your feet.

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assuredly I say to you, I will

be more tolerable for the land

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of Sodom and Gomorrah in the day

of judgment than for that city.

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Jesus is essentially saying, if

someone is not listening to you

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and not being receptive, it's okay.

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Walk away.

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Dust off your feet and continue, move on.

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It's okay to do that.

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Also, in today's day and age, we

don't have to fight tooth and nail

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with people to really understand us.

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We are all allowed to have

our opinions, our beliefs.

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As nice as it would be for everyone

to agree and get along, that's

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just not the way that it works.

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So in this particular scenario, dust off

your feet and continue walking my friends.

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The next portion of scripture I'm going to

read is from Matthew chapter 14, verse 13.

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In this part, Jesus and the disciples

have fed a multitude of about 5,000

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people, and this is just very simple

and very plainly put in this portion of

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scripture, Jesus simply just steps away

and takes time away from all the people.

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Verse 13 says, when Jesus heard it,

he departed from thereby boat to

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a deserted place by himself, but

when the multitudes heard it, they

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followed him on foot from the cities.

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So.

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Yeah.

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Jesus was used to being around thousands

and hundreds of people at all times.

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People followed him everywhere he went,

and even in times like this where he was

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healing people and listening and preaching

and feeding them and just working

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and doing miracles, he always found a

moment for himself and he stepped away.

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He prayed, he fasted,

and he just received.

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And loved having that time with the

father, and he needed that silence.

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I assure you it is okay for us to

do the same and it's really more

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than, okay, we need that sometimes.

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Continuing on to Matthew chapter 15,

verse 37 through 39, And it says,

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so they all ate and were filled and

they took up seven large baskets

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full of the fragments that were left.

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Now those who ate were 4,000 men.

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Besides women and children, and he

sent away the multitude, got into the

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boat and came to the region of Magdala.

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It doesn't matter what is going

on around you, it doesn't matter

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sometimes how many people are there.

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Sometimes we just need a minute.

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Jesus sometimes stepped away

for days and days on end.

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I know that's not really

something that we can all do

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However, we need our silence.

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We need our time away from

people in general that.

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Not just healthy for us, but it

is needed for us spiritually.

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And when we have that quality time

with the Lord and we are praying and we

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are talking to him, and we are reading

the word, we can truly understand

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what it is that we're doing because we

are not focused on things around us.

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So just how Jesus would need a minute to

step away and to just kind of recollect

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himself after dealing with so much.

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We need that for ourselves.

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So get up, stay away from these people

that are sometimes unreceptive, and even

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if they're not being unreceptive, just

situations that are too much for us.

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we need to have that peace.

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the next section that I am going

to read scriptures from have more

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to do with dealing with hostile

people or even toxic environments.

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Sometimes the best thing to do

obviously is avoid them, but if you

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can't avoid them, The best hand that

you can play is just to not answer.

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So let's read a few scriptures that I have

highlighted here for you guys and let's

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see how it is that Jesus handled these.

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So in this part of the Bible, Jesus

is being arrested by the Pharisees

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and he is being handed over to Pilate.

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Pilate is not really sure what to do.

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He's looking for a way out because

he knows that Jesus is innocent.

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But in this particular part of the

scripture, it's called Jesus Faces

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Pilate, and we are going to see what

Jesus does when Pilate is questioning him.

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Matthew chapter 27 verses 11 through

14, and it says, now Jesus stood before

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the governor and the governor asked him

saying, are you the king of the Jews?

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Jesus said to him.

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It is, as you say, and while he was

being accused by the chief priests

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and elders, he answered nothing but

he answered him not one word, so

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that the governor marveled greatly.

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My friends, It is, as you say.

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So he didn't answer him.

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He simply just, if you say

so, you said it, not me.

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That's exactly what I'm taking from that.

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And that's what he said to Pilate.

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However, despite everything that Jesus

was being accused of by the priest and by

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the elders, he didn't say a single word.

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Sometimes the best thing to do

in scenarios like this is just

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to stay quiet, refuse to answer.

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Next, I'm going to be sharing with you

Luke chapter four, verse 16 through 30,

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I'm sure that this is going to resonate

with everyone because even if you're

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not a follower of Christ, I know that

there are so many people that have

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tried to start a new venture, a new

business, a new side hustle, whatever

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it is, and the people that least respond

that usually are the least supportive

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for some reason are your closest friend

and family, this section of my Bible

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is called Jesus Rejected at Nazareth.

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and if you know Jesus Christ was

born in Nazareth and in this part

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of scripture, he is rejected in

such a way that he is almost thrown

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off a cliff by his own people.

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So please understand that just like

Jesus, his own people gave him the

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hardest time, probably even worse than

the Pharisees just like Jesus, our

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families and our friends are typically

the first people to reject us, especially

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when we are walking with Christ.

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I still have it with that one

particular person in my family.

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Every single thing I do,

there is always a critique.

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There is always a question mark.

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There is always something that

does not seem right, People

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do not need to understand us.

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The only person that needs to understand

us and know our heart is our Lord.

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So that's why I wanted to share this with

you in its entirety because it is just

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so powerful how it's written in scripture

that even his own townsmen were willing

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to throw this perfect man over a cliff.

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So let's go ahead and read Luke chapter

four, verses 16 through 30, and it says,

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So he came to Nazareth where he had

been brought up and his custom was he

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went into the synagogue on the Sabbath

day and stood up to read, and he was

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handed the book of the prophet Isaiah,

and when he had opened the book, he

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found the place where it was written.

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The spirit of the Lord is upon

me because he has anointed me to

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preach the gospel to the poor.

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He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted,

to proclaim liberty to the captives And

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recovery of sight to the blind to set

at liberty those who are oppressed, to

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proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.

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Then he closed the book and gave

it back to the attendant and sat

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down and the eyes of all who were

in the synagogue were fixed on him.

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And he began to say to them, today, the

scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.

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So all bore witness to him and marvel

at the gracious words, which proceeded

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out of his mouth and they said.

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is this not Joseph's son.

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He said to them, You will surely say this

proverb to me, physician, heal yourself.

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Whatever we have heard done in

Capernaum, do also hear in your country.

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Then he said, assuredly I say to you, no

profit is accepted in his own country.

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That is very true, you guys.

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No profit is accepted in his own country.

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Verse 25.

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But I tell you truly many widows were

in Israel in the day of Elijah when the

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heaven was shut up, three years and six

months, and there was a great famine

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throughout the land, but to none of

them was Elijah sent except to Raf in

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the region of Sidon, to a woman who was

a widow and many lepers were in Israel

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in the time of Alicia, the prophet.

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and none of them was cleanse

except Naman, the Syrian.

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So all those who in the

synagogue, when they heard these

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things were filled with wrath

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And rose up and thrust him out of the

city, and they led him to the brow of the

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hill on which their city was built, that

they might throw him down over the cliff.

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Then passing through the mis of them.

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He went his way.

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So guys right there on verse 28

is where you can easily read.

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That the people despised him

just for what he was saying.

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Of course, he was reading from the

book of Elijah and he was making

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prophecy come true because he was there

reading those very words and all the

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things that were written that he was

doing, he was explaining it to them.

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So once, it finally dawned on them,

that's when they became enraged.

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But wouldn't you think that the people.

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Who grew up with him in the same

town, who knew him his entire

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life, who knew his mom and dad?

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Wouldn't you think that those would

be the first people to cheer him on?

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I don't know.

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I would think yes, but in reality,

those are the people that always

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judge and persecute first.

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And unfortunately for Jesus, it

was the same thing that happens

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to us all the time as well.

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So we can all relate to our Lord in many,

many ways, but especially in this one.

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I wanted to read one more thing from Luke.

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this section, I named it

ignore, forgive, and Move on.

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And I know that forgiveness is

something that is extremely difficult

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for many, many, many people.

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However, sometimes all we can do

is ignore the words and actions

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of those people around us.

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It may hurt.

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And of course it doesn't feel

good, but not everything deserves

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a response, and you've already

listened to the things that I read.

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You already listened to

the things that I said.

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You know, from your own experience

that sometimes a response isn't

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going to lead to anything better.

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It can sometimes make things worse.

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We don't always have to be right.

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We don't always have

to have the last word.

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the healthiest thing is for us to forgive.

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And to not burden ourselves with the

emotional load of other people, we have

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to learn how to forgive and move on.

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this part of my Bible is named the King

on the Cross, I'm going to read Luke.

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Chapter 23 verses 26 through 43.

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And it says,

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Now, as they let him away, they laid hold

of a certain man, Simon, a Ceridian, who

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was coming from the country and on him,

they laid the cross that he might bear

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it after Jesus, and a great multitude

of the people followed him and women

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who also mourned and lamented him.

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But Jesus turning to them said, daughters

of Jerusalem, do not weep for me, but

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weep for yourselves and for your children.

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For indeed, the days are coming in,

which they will say, blessed are

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the barren women's that never bore

and breast, which never nursed.

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Then they will begin to say to the

mountains, fall on us and to the hills.

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Cover us

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For if they do these things in the

Greenwood, what will be done in the dry?

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there were also two others.

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Criminals led with him to be put

to death, and when they had come

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to the place called Calvary there.

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They crucified him and the

criminals One on the right

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hand and the other on the left.

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Then Jesus said, father, forgive them

for they do not know what they do,

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and they divided his garments and cast

lots and the people stood looking on.

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but even the rulers with them

sneered saying he saved others.

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Let him save himself if he

is Christ the chosen of God?

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The soldiers also mocked him coming and

offering him sour wine and saying, if you

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are the king of the Jews, save yourself.

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And an inscription also was

written over him in letters

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of Greek, Latin, and Hebrew.

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This is the king of the Jews.

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Then one of the criminals who

were hanged blasphemed him.

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Saying If you are the

Christ, save yourself and us.

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But the other answering

rebuked him saying,

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Do you not even fear God?

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Seeing you are under

the same condemnation?

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And we indeed justly for we

receive the do reward of our deed.

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But this man has done nothing wrong.

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Then he said to Jesus, Lord, remember

me when you come into your kingdom.

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And Jesus said to him, assuredly

I say to you today, you

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will be with me in paradise.

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Jesus was being hanged,

he was being crucified.

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He was already beaten.

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People could not even

recognize what he looked like.

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And even then he addressed the

women that were following him.

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Even then, he said to God to forgive

the people who were mocking him,

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to forgive the people who were

saying all of these nasty things.

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He ignored all of the guards who were

offering him the sour wine, who were again

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saying horrible, horrible things to him.

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He ignored the criminal.

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that was next to him.

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He did not have time,

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he ignored, he forgave and he moved on.

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And I say that in those words.

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Because I want everyone to just

understand it as simply as possible.

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There was a lot more going on, obviously

something very dark, very serious.

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This is the worst, the worst

part of his entire life, and the

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part that I will never understand

why anyone did that to him.

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However, in this part.

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He forgave and he moved on.

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Jesus knew where he was going.

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he was going to be with the father so

I'm pretty sure that that gave him the

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power to just continue on because he

already knew where he was gonna be.

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And us, us Christians, us

believers of followers of Christ,

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we know where we're going to.

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The knowledge of that alone, that we

will one day also be with a father.

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That should be enough for us.

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So I challenge you, I challenge you

to not deal with these people, don't

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deal with these scenarios on your own.

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Instead, deal with these

things the way that Jesus did.

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The righteous way, turn away.

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Do not answer, ignore, forgive.

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I thank you for listening my friends.

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I pray that I will be up for some video

content pretty soon, but until then, I

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will see you here again next Monday for

another podcast episode of I Can He Can.

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I love you all.

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God bless you and take care.

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I'm glad you're here and I hope you stay a while. There is something I need to give back to the world - and to you.

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