Episode 8

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Published on:

18th Aug 2025

Prosecco & Some Yap

In this episode, I introduce my best friend, and first ever co-host, Brandy! Buckle up as we discuss friendship, marriage, divorce - all things in between - as we sip prosecco and yap together on a Saturday night.

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Alright everyone, good morning

and welcome back to I Can, he Can.

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This is episode eight and before I

jump into the episode that I recorded

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with a special, special person,

I wanted to preface this because.

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The most important part of this

conversation was not recorded.

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The mic started malfunctioning or ran

out of battery, whatever the case was.

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But I do believe sometimes that when there

is something that's very, very important,

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a message that you are trying to get

across, I know that the enemy is out there

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and they don't want it to happen, but.

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Nonetheless, with all the technical

difficulties that we did have, I really

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hope that you do enjoy this episode,

and it's really just two people that

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have a great friendship, having fun

talking and discussing things that

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are really, really dear to our hearts.

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So without further ado,

here's episode eight.

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Hi Brandy.

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Hello.

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Sad

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I have to put my like

normal voice because.

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Are we recording?

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Okay, Welcome back everyone.

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happy Monday.

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Welcome back to I Can.

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He Can.

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Today is a special,

special, special episode.

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I actually have a little

bit of Prosecco in my hand.

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Mm-hmm.

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And in front of me, I have my best

friend who is a treat for you guys.

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Hello.

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Hello.

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I also have Prosecco in my hand as well.

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This is not the usual podcast, everyone.

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So if you enjoy this one more

than the others, shame on you.

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But this is also, they're gonna

enjoy it because I'm here.

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Yes, yes, for sure.

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This was the original thought of the

podcast, to have both of us together.

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Well, I'm not gonna say the

other parts of the podcast.

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No.

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But we definitely always talked

about having a podcast together.

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And here we are.

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So, Brandy, do you wanna say something?

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Introduce yourself.

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Sure.

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Hi everybody.

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I am excited to be here.

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My name is Brandy.

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You're excited to be in your own house.

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Yeah, I am.

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I'm excited to be on The I can't He

Can podcast as a special guest with my

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best friend, Sai as we sit Prosecco.

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And we talk about our friendship

Her new fasting adventure.

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Oh, off of social media.

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Yes.

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We're gonna start that and how her cat may

or may not toss my laptop to the floor.

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She get out.

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So this, sorry if you hear me.

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This is definitely unscripted and going

to be very different, but I hope that

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you guys enjoy it at the end of the day.

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Like I say in all the other episodes,

it is still rooted in Christ and

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really what brought all us together.

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well, it wasn't just Christ,

but it was, I, I'll let Brandy

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explain what brought us together.

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Yes.

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What brought us together?

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Well, I do believe that

God did bring us together.

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Yeah.

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I feel that obviously he put us

in each other's past for a reason.

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I also feel that, Your illness

your multiple sclerosis

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also brought us together.

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because at the time, you know, um,

well my husband, ex-husband, I don't

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know what you wanna call him, soon

to be ex, soon to be ex-husband,

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unfortunately, was, diagnosed with

multiple sclerosis and he was struggling

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with that illness and I didn't have a

good understanding of what it was too.

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I guess live with somebody with that

disease or live with somebody who was

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struggling with multiple sclerosis and

I feel like, God put me in your life

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or you put you in my life, And, um.

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I remember our kids being in the dojo

and in karate school together And, When

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I was having a conversation with one of

the employees at the Dojo, I told her

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about the struggles that my husband was

going through with multiple sclerosis.

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She told me, I know another

mom here who also has.

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Multiple sclerosis.

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And I was like, who?

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She's like, Eli's mom, Sai.

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And I was like, what?

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And she, I'm like, who is that?

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And then she shows me a picture.

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when I saw that picture, I was

like, oh, I know who she is.

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I've seen her before.

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So I think one day I see you

walking in the parking lot and you

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just, I did like it was yesterday

and you just look so exhausted.

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You ambushed me.

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Yeah, I did.

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I did.

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I almost like tackled her like I

was like, it was a nice ambush.

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It really was.

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Yeah.

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It was a pleasant one.

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It was.

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As I saw her walking out of

the dojo, I went up to her and

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I was like, Hey, are you sad?

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Hi.

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You're Eli's mom, right?

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You have multiple sclerosis, right?

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Yeah.

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I was like, so.

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Excited, I introduced myself.

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I said, Hey, I am Jacob's mom and my

husband also has multiple sclerosis.

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Honestly, at the time though, like

I didn't really get to talk about it

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a lot unless it was on social media.

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but like face to face with

people, I didn't really have

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anyone to talk to about that.

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So it was, it was weird.

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Like it was a weird like me.

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But it was also nice to have

something in common with someone

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else and be like, oh my God, yes.

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Like, yes, I understand

that a hundred percent.

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Mm-hmm.

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So that was.

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Was very hot that day.

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I remember too.

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I was like dying.

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I remember that too.

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And I think we were

talking for a while too.

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I don't know if I was in the

car, was I getting out of

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the car or I was in the car.

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I know that there was a few

times where I was in the car

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and like I was stopping you.

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It was like, oh my God, I was dying.

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It was, and I just felt like I had so many

questions and I really wanted to like.

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Get a good perspective because, I

was trying to understand my husband

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at the time but he didn't have a

good way of like expressing himself.

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And I didn't really know what his

struggles were, what he was going through.

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And I understand that everybody

struggles is different.

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Mm-hmm.

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But I felt like, you know what,

here's another woman who's going

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through this, who's a mom, who's

here picking up her kids like I am.

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And maybe she can give me a better

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Understanding.

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Yeah.

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You know, and honestly like I felt

like God was telling me for so

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long to be more patient with Mike.

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Mm-hmm.

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Which Mike is my soon to be ex.

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and I also felt like, I needed

to, to be more patient, but

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also be more understanding.

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Yeah.

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And I never really put the.

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The time in, researching that illness

when he first was diagnosed Mm-hmm.

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Well, My brother-in-law

was also diagnosed with ms.

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and which they say it's not

genetic, but it does happen

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to run in families, which is.

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Crazy that they say it's

not genetic, but a wano.

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It happens more in in

men from what I know.

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But yeah.

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And when he was first initially

diagnosed, which he was diagnosed about

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four years before my husband mm-hmm.

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Or my ex-husband, she

did a lot of research.

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But when I found out that

Mike was diagnosed, Yeah.

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I was just like, okay, come on.

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No, we don't have time for this.

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You gotta keep moving forward.

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Yeah.

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We don't have time to be sad or anything.

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You just gotta, Hey, keep going.

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Yeah.

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So when I did meet you and when we did

start to talk more, I felt like you

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gave me a better understanding mm-hmm.

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Of what that disease was

or, How to live with it.

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So I drew, I truly

believe that it was God.

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Yeah, God placed you in my life

for a reason, for you, for sure.

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In that sense, I think it

was helpful, but then in my

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perspective, looking back at it now.

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It was God talking through you to

me because all of the times that you

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kept, oh, just remember that Jesus,

this and Jesus sat and God loves you,

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and oh, I was cringing every time

that she would talk about God to me.

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And not because I didn't believe, but

because I wasn't ready to really listen.

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And then, finally I did.

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But that's why she Was put in my life.

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Mm-hmm.

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So it it, it worked out very well.

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it's funny that you say that.

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I mean, um, around this time we

had reconciled our marriage after

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being separated for seven months.

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Mm-hmm.

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So, I was trying to make everything right

again, trying to make things new again.

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And anytime that you express to me any

sort of like trials in your marriage.

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Mm-hmm.

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I always reverted back

to God can help you.

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You know, just focus.

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And I did notice the eye roll.

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And I do remember giving you

that uh, devotional which I

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always kept beside my bed.

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Yeah.

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But I still, I always had it beside my

bed from the day that she gave it to me.

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And I do remember inviting you to church

and, you know, sending you sermons that

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I know for a fact you didn't watch.

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I watched a few of them.

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Oh, okay.

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Thank you very much.

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Okay.

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I'm sorry.

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A few of them.

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the first few, probably not,

but definitely later on.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Well, I, I was so excited to

share those sermons because for

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those sermons on marriage mm-hmm.

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For me, they were so helpful

and they gave me so much hope in

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such a dark season in my life.

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So I was just excited to share

what God can do in your life.

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But for some reason, like

God, kept telling me, keep

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sharing it with that girl.

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Keep sharing it.

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Because most, I am not a patient person,

and I think that like by the second

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eye roll, I would've been like, okay.

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Beep, I'm leaving, but I just felt God

telling me like, don't give up on her.

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Don't give up on her.

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and yeah, so, and now I also have

a best friend, And not just a best

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friend, but a friend who is not

judgmental at all because I could quite

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literally tell you anything and I have

never had that kind of relationship.

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Ever.

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Yeah.

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I've had very good, you know,

friendships in the past.

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But how good were they?

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Because now they're non-existent.

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So anyway.

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Yeah, and I would never judge you

'cause you're wearing like a God

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goddess love shirt holding a Prosecco.

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No.

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Now I'm wearing a Goddess Love shirt.

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I'll never imagine myself

while sipping on Prosecco.

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No, I'm just kidding.

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Yeah, we actually, okay you guys, let's be

honest right now, tomorrow's my birthday.

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So by the time that, yay, you

listen to this, I will already

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be in my mid thirties officially.

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Mm-hmm.

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but we just came from Flanagans.

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We had, how many.

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Well, I had one and a half.

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We both had one and a half.

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Yeah, we both, we shared, yeah, we,

we finished the second drink and

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together and, but we had a lot of food.

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It was delicious.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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We had some nachos, some

ribs, whatever it was.

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It was really good.

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And then now we're here but we're

not overdoing it, you know, we are

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just having a good time because

we never get to really hang out.

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Never.

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Not be Moms 24 7.

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Yeah.

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So this is a very nice change and

I'm so excited for your birthday.

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'cause I will say like I

am so grateful because.

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I have never had a friend

who's made me feel as special.

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Aw.

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As the way that you do, for

me and like my birthday.

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Oh my God.

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You went above and beyond and

you made me feel amazing and you

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just, you're typing me out, man.

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I know, but you really, you really are.

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It's funny because like I always

prayed for a friendship this way.

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Always.

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And I had, I've had close

friends in the past, but.

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I don't have those friendships anymore,

but I've never felt judged by you.

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I mean, I know we've gotten a

little annoyed at each other.

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One time only actually like 24 hours ago.

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But we are, we are, we're women

of Christ and we forgave each

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other and we love each other.

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And we moved on.

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But you said we forgave each other.

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I don't even think it warranted

forgiveness because, no, we did

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say, I'm sorry, to each other.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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And we did say we forgave each other.

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Yeah.

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'cause we said, I'm sorry, I didn't really

mean the apology, but I'm just kidding.

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I'm just kidding.

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No, no.

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But honestly, like, this has been

the friendship that I always prayed

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for and I don't feel judged at all.

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And like you have been the

one person who's been there

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by my side through everything,

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And anytime that I had,

I needed a shoulder.

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You were there and you're just so

selfless and I'm so grateful for you.

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And lemme tell you, you've been

through a really, really rough year.

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actually, if I had a dollar for every

time that you sent me a crying voice note.

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Should I keep this in the other?

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Yeah, you can.

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Of course, of course.

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If I had a dollar for every

crying voice note that you sent.

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I would probably be a billionaire.

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Oh my God.

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That's an exaggeration.

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However, this past year

you'd have a lot more money.

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this year I know, has

been really hard for you.

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But if you could see yourself through

the eyes of another person of me, of

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your best friend, and see how far you've

come, not just emotionally but even

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physically I wish I had the willpower

that you had right now to like, get up,

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go to the gym, do better in that aspect.

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and it's hard for me.

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And I, it's hard for a lot of

people and you're doing it all.

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You're being a mom, you're working full

time, you're taking care of yourself.

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Like you were telling me, you don't even

really want the company of another person

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right now because it's not in your heart.

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, you have yourself first finally,

like for the first time in a long time.

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Yeah.

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That's what God wants for you.

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Like he wants you to love you

before you can be ready to accept

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another person in your life.

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And I know for sure that's

gonna come for sure.

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Any anybody listening to

this podcast right now?

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I'm a single lady.

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I'm just kidding.

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No, but yeah.

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Okay.

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Going back to the serious talk.

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You guys did not hear what we were just

talking about because I cut it out.

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I could not play that for this episode.

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but in all seriousness, I know that I

know my best friend is gonna be just

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fine because she has God with her.

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And at the end of the day, she has

a better relationship with everyone

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around her because she is putting God

first in her life, probably for the

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first time, fully, fully, not putting

her marriage on a pedestal anymore.

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She's putting God and herself.

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Love it.

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All right.

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Shimo,

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she's about to attack.

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No, she's not.

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She's just, she's, I trust cats, bro.

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She's, she's not attack you.

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She's so sweet.

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It's possible.

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Anyway, when I'm moving on from our

friendship, because let's not bore people

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with, all the Sapp friendship stuff,

you keep fasting from social media.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah, I don't, I really

don't see the need for it.

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but tell me about why you need

to fast from social media, or are

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you fasting from anything else?

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Or is it just that?

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no, my, the focus was social media and

one of the reasons why I feel like I've

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needed to fast from social media was.

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Because I realized that I, I was spending

so much time just scrolling away.

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Mm-hmm.

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okay.

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In the Bible, one of the 10

Commandments is thou shall not covet.

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and I think I've told you this

before, that we may not even realize

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it, but sometimes on social media.

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You may be, scrolling and looking at other

people's lives and desiring that life that

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they're living or that relationship they

have based on just a story that they're

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posting or a picture that they're posting.

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you might not even realize that

you're desiring that feeling, but deep

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down you may be comparing your life.

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And I realized I was doing

that a lot why do these people

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have that beautiful marriage?

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And here I am, I wish I could be traveling

as often as these couples are with their

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kids, or look at the money that they

have or look at the house every time

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that I saw internalizing their lives.

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Yeah.

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Like, Why not me?

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Exactly.

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And I, and I, I felt that a lot

and I don't wanna thank myself as

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a person that envy, but I started

to feel that at some point.

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look at the house.

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How did they just buy a house?

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and I'm not a homeowner to Puerto

Rico for the third time this year.

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Exactly.

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Like, wow, look at, you know, they have

their summer trip and they have their

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winter trip and I started feeling that.

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And then, it was such a negative

feeling and when I look back.

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Huh?

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I love your tiktoks.

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Oh, well, I love TikTok.

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I do love sharing my inspirational,

TikTok posts, especially now but I

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like TikTok because a lot of the people

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That I know are not on TikTok.

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Exactly.

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And I don't follow a

lot of people on TikTok.

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I follow strangers on TikTok.

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But it was Instagram

that I had to disconnect.

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And then it got to a point where

there were people sliding in my dms.

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I shouldn't have been sliding in my dms,

and I felt like that was a distraction or

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like the devil was trying to pull me in

a different direction when I'm trying to.

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You know.

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Yeah.

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Stay focused.

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Yeah, stay focused.

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So, I don't know, there was

just a lot of negative things

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happening with social media.

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do you think it was like, keeping you

behind on certain things in your life?

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A hundred percent.

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Like, I found myself, like in the

morning, waking up and just immediately

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opening Instagram and scrolling.

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I was studying for the lieutenant's test.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I found myself, very distracted.

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I've passed two of the tests, but I

didn't score high enough to get promoted.

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Pause for a second.

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By the way, not only is, not only is

my best friend, an amazing mom and best

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friend, but she's also a cop, okay.

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Just so you wanna, okay.

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Back to what you were saying

about the lieutenants, but I also,

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that's what she's talking about.

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I also found my daily

screen time decreased.

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50%.

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I'm gonna need some more

Prosecco So 50% less, 50% less.

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I wonder

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So I, if I do it for one day, I would

have to see like how much of it would

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make, even though I don't find it to

be an issue for me though, like I stay

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pretty focused, if you think about it.

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Every time that we grab our phones,

I find myself opening up Instagram

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Mm-hmm.

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You know, like looking

at things like that.

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it's just more of a habit for me.

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It's not problematic, but it

would be interesting for me to

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see what the difference would be.

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And then I will.

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Say that another issue was that

I found myself, especially going

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through these issues of separation and

divorce, I found myself like really

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looking into my husband's profile and

digging for things that I felt were

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causing me more confusion and more

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Insecurities than I ever did before.

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So anytime he would post a story about

whatever it was, I'd try to relate

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it on what we were going through.

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I was reading too much into it.

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Immediately I was, is it 'cause of me?

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Yeah, exactly.

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but I've actually been reading my Bible

so much more, actually the difference

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between you and me, When I really came

to Christ, like I was more reading.

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And even though you had a like read

before and you were very into like the

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devotionals and the word and stuff like

that, you weren't much of a reader.

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You're a reader though.

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I'm, you're like a, she's

a little bit of a geek.

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She's a little nerd, but she's very

intelligent as you guys can see.

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But, but yeah, I, I don't

like to read at all.

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Well, I'm very proud of you for actually.

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:

Going back in there.

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I don't agree with the social

media fast because I am the type

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of friend that we need to have five

conversations at the same time.

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That's, that's how our friendship

really goes throughout the day.

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but now no more.

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Now I have to, I know when you log

in back to your Instagram, you're

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gonna have like 60 messages from me.

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I know, I know.

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But I, you know what, and another

thing about Instagram is just I

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feel like so many people were like.

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Constantly like looking at my

stories, liking my pictures, but

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then I'd see those same people at

work and they barely speak to me.

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:

Yeah.

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:

So like that I was just like, oh, I

don't, you know, like how many of these

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relationships are really like genuine or

Do they even really like care that much?

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:

Mm-hmm.

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I see that finger.

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You're pointing how,

let me point the finger.

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So I started noticing on my TikTok

algorithm, like obviously I would

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post a lot about Christianity

and Jesus and stuff, and the

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gym because I like to work out.

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But then I started getting all

of these really good looking men.

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Like on my algorithm, and

they're like weightlifting.

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They look amazing.

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:

Incredible.

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And they're all posting

about weightlifting in Jesus.

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But then I noticed like they have like

all these women Liking their pictures.

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And I'm like, how much of this is real?

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:

Exactly.

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Like how much of this is actually real?

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:

And then I started noticing.

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I hate to say this, but like if I had

a post that just revealed a little bit

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:

more cleavage than it should, Mm-hmm.

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I had a lot more views on that post.

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:

Mm-hmm.

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Than I did in the one of me, like sweaty

with my hair a mess and no makeup.

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The real one.

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:

Yeah.

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:

Shame on that.

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And I was like, what is this?

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So I was like, how many of these

men are actually about like the

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gym and Jesus, how Godly are you?

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Yeah, for real.

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So I'm like, are they really doing

that for like, the same thing goes for

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people on social media like me, people

will consider me now a baby Christian

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because I, I've always believed in God.

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I never understood Jesus.

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I'm a little ashamed to even say

that, but I never understood what.

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Who Jesus was, right?

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:

Mm-hmm.

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Until now.

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Now I consider myself Christian,

whatever, et cetera, et cetera.

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:

Anyway, long story short, people

that see me now, it's a complete 180.

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:

oh, but you're like this.

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No, I was like that.

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Yeah.

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I'm not like that anymore.

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Yeah.

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And I really am Christian, like I

do, like I wanna meet Jesus already.

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if the world ended tomorrow,

I would be like, take me Lord.

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Take me with you.

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And I never thought I would ever say that.

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But when you see these other people

and we are just judging them, kind

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:

of like, oh, how Godly are you?

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And it's really hard to distinguish

like, okay, how real are you?

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How real is your faith?

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But it's social media

song, you never know.

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Brandy, you gotta slide energy.

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I, uh, well, I'll wait till I'm divorced.

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:

Prosec.

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:

Oh yeah.

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:

Guys, we're gonna pause for

a short pros cycle break.

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So we'll back in just a second.

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Okay.

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And we're back.

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We have cup and hand.

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This was recording the

whole time, by the way.

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:

No way.

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:

Yeah, it was recording the whole time.

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:

Oh my God.

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:

How funny.

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:

When all we got our refills,

good thing I didn't for it.

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:

I'm just kidding.

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:

You want me to use that?

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:

No, actually, whoever

knows you well will know.

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:

Yeah.

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:

That's Brandy.

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:

Okay.

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:

I'm, I'm really gonna leave that now.

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:

Okay, that's fine.

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:

I'm just kidding.

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:

We'll see.

531

:

Listen on Monday.

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:

Yeah.

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:

Okay.

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:

Anyway, so we're back.

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:

We have our little refills.

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:

How are we feeling

with, with the Prosecco?

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Good.

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:

Feeling good?

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:

Yeah.

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:

Yeah.

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:

No, no buzz, nothing.

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I don't, I don't know.

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:

Not really.

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:

Not really.

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:

I don't know if that's a good or a bad

thing, because remember we had that

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:

one and a half drink of Flanigans.

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:

That's true.

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:

But I didn't, I felt more full than Butts.

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:

Yeah.

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:

Yeah.

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:

Because you were wearing jeans.

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:

I was, I'm wearing so stuck in my

stomach, nachos, ribs and wings.

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:

Yeah.

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:

You didn't really have wings though.

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:

Did you try that one wing?

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:

No, I didn't.

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:

My God.

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:

So good.

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:

But the nachos were delicious.

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:

I think I ate most of the nachos.

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:

Yeah, you did.

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:

I did because I, I didn't even

see you get I like three chips.

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:

Yeah.

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:

No, from the nachos.

565

:

Mm-hmm.

566

:

I like their nachos though.

567

:

It's just that I like

my ribs and wings more.

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:

Oh, the rib.

569

:

It's okay.

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:

The ribs.

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:

It's, we're good.

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:

Yeah, they're good.

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:

Flanigan should pay us for this.

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:

Guys.

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:

Go to Flanagans.

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:

Their Moscow mule was

not that great though.

577

:

Mm-hmm.

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:

It tasted like a blend of Moscow mojito.

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:

Yeah.

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:

No, I didn't like it with, yeah.

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:

Oh, my.

582

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And I, I was at a retirement

party, so I had about three

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:

drinks and they were, yeah.

584

:

But they were very small drinks.

585

:

They were like in tiny little cups.

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:

Yeah.

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:

And, but they were good.

588

:

They were, I was feeding it.

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:

Wow.

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:

Brandon, you've, you've

had quite a few today.

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:

I did, but I feel, look right

now I am in my Walmart pajama,

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:

kind.

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:

This part.

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:

Okay.

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:

That's still funny.

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:

Okay.

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:

And Is it midnight yet?

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Oh my God.

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:

Is, is your birthday yet?

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:

Oh my God.

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:

That's right.

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:

I completely forgot.

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:

She's gonna be 35, 11, 24 right now.

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:

Oh my gosh.

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:

It's 1124 on Saturday,

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:

bro.

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:

It was off the whole time.

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:

I think yours was off.

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:

No, bro.

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:

What a fail.

611

:

Testing, testing.

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:

Okay.

613

:

Testing.

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:

Oh,

615

:

this is not karaoke, brandy.

616

:

I'm sorry.

617

:

Okay.

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:

Let me tell you guys what just happened.

619

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We were having the best conversation

after we came back from our

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:

little break and for some reason.

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Technology is just not working with me.

622

:

So everything we spoke about was

gone, but it's okay because that just

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:

means that she can come back again

for another episode and we can have

624

:

that same discussion all over again.

625

:

And it may be even better because

honestly, this has turned out

626

:

much better than I expected.

627

:

Me too, me too.

628

:

I thought it was gonna be a little

bit weird, but it's not weird.

629

:

What do you think?

630

:

I don't know.

631

:

Let me ask you, do you feel a

difference in your life with a

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:

husband versus without a husband?

633

:

Like meaning the day to day

what you do, what's the biggest

634

:

difference that you feel now?

635

:

I I feel more peace.

636

:

Do I feel any different?

637

:

No.

638

:

'cause I was living a very lonely

marriage for a very long time.

639

:

Mm-hmm.

640

:

But.

641

:

Hmm.

642

:

That's a pretty good question.

643

:

Thank you.

644

:

God, you've got me there, buddy.

645

:

It's a hard question to answer too.

646

:

It really is because at the end of the

day, like whatever answer you give I think

647

:

is going to feel a little sad because.

648

:

whatever the response is gonna be.

649

:

You don't want that to be your

response because you would want

650

:

to still have your marriage.

651

:

And I know that you wanted to have

your marriage of course, because from

652

:

the moment I met you that you had

just gotten back together, you were

653

:

fighting tooth and nail to stay in it.

654

:

Which is admirable because some

people just give up easily.

655

:

Like I wanted to give up so

easily for the longest time.

656

:

Yeah.

657

:

but I feel like when two

people are not focused on God.

658

:

and if you don't build that firm

foundation or if you don't keep God in

659

:

the center of your marriage, I don't

believe the marriage is going to succeed.

660

:

So like you both have to have that goal.

661

:

Like you both have to have that vision.

662

:

You both have to have God in the

center of your marriage for it to work.

663

:

And unfortunately, There

is power in a praying wife.

664

:

I did pray a lot for my marriage, but I

realized that my prayers alone, we're not

665

:

going to save the marriage, you know, so

two people have to want to fight for that.

666

:

Know roles.

667

:

Yeah, there's a lot of stuff

that we still need to talk about.

668

:

however, when we came back from our

little break, My best friend had a little

669

:

surprise that she had been hiding from me.

670

:

Something that she's been working on.

671

:

but that's gonna be for another episode

when she's ready to discuss that.

672

:

'cause it's such a good thing.

673

:

It has purpose.

674

:

Mm-hmm.

675

:

So I can't wait for her to share that.

676

:

And I hope you guys really

enjoyed this episode.

677

:

It's definitely been the funnest one.

678

:

this better get the most listens

and downloads of all the other ones.

679

:

When I get back on social

media, I'm sharing this.

680

:

Oh yeah, when she, she better, she better.

681

:

Two weeks repost this two

weeks, man, that's a long time.

682

:

Not for Jesus, she said hurts the most.

683

:

She is, she is fasting from social

media for all the right reasons,

684

:

and maybe I should give that a try.

685

:

So, okay, now what?

686

:

Yeah, two weeks, the, the 28th.

687

:

I will be, done with my social media

fast on the 28th, but it's all for God.

688

:

That means that I'm not gonna be ignored

anymore when I slide into her dms.

689

:

Anyway.

690

:

I hope you guys have enjoyed this episode.

691

:

I hope that something that we've talked

about has given you some joy, some laughs.

692

:

I hope that you have been blessed

in some sort of way by this, and I

693

:

hope that you guys tune in for the

next episode where I may or may not

694

:

have her as my co-host and guest.

695

:

Anyway, have a great rest of your

day, you guys, and until next time.

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Hi y'all! Welcome to I Can't (He Can) - a down to Earth and honest podcast about life's high's, lows, and everything in between.

From childhood experiences, to dating, raising kids, a career, and marriage - to unpacking all relationships and (very personal) daily struggles - join me as I share my journey discovering that when, I can't... He can.

Each episode is rooted in the Bible and how God's Word gave me the strength (and the hope) to endure all parts of life. So - if you're not sure where your faith lies or if you're looking to grow closer to Jesus, while finding encouragement for your own walk, this is the space for you.

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To whoever reads this:
I'm glad you're here and I hope you stay a while. There is something I need to give back to the world - and to you.

That 'something' is my story, my life and my words that were once marked by pain, but are now marked by love and a new found faith in Christ. But hold it right there! Do not be quick to judge. While the root of all my talks are founded in the Bible - do not mistake what I have to say for 'unremarkable' or 'not relatable'.

My story is different than yours. However, if there is one thing we 100% have in common, it's that God has always been with us. If you agree - stick around. If you DON'T agree - stick around too. Let me show the unbeliever, the doubter, and the unsure person, how God has always been there.